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The Lord told Joshua:
Yes, be bold and strong!    Banish fear and doubt!
For remember, the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
Joshua 1: 9
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Malachi 4:
5 "But also look ahead:
I'm sending Elijah the prophet to clear the way for the Big Day of GOD - the decisive Judgment Day!
6 He will convince parents to look after their children and children to look up to their parents.
If they refuse, I'll come and put the land under a curse."    (The Message Bible)

This closing prophecy of the Old Testament was fulfilled in the life of John the Baptist, who came with the power of the Prophet Elijah, to prepare the way for the Lord Jesus Christ. The Apostle Paul explains the ministry of the Lord Jesus like this:
1 Timothy 3:
16 . . . He appeared in a human body, was proved right by the invisible Spirit, was seen by angels.
He was proclaimed among all kinds of peoples, believed in all over the world, taken up into heavenly glory.    (The Message Bible)

However, Malachi 4: 6 says that if the hearts of fathers and children weren't reconciled to each other - that the Lord would possibly come and put the land under a curse.
According to Proverbs 26: 2, a curse that is underseved, does not take effect. However, one of the most terrible problems we face in the human race at the moment, comes from the hearts of fathers and children not being linked in love to each other.
It certainly seems that this curse has gone into action.
Many fathers' hearts are turned away from their children; and many children's hearts are turned away from their fathers. If this has not happened in your family, you have much to thank God for.

The Apostle Paul gave fathers these instructions in his letters:
Ephesians 6: 4 Fathers, don't exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master.    (The Message Bible)
Colossians 3:
20 Children, do what your parents tell you. This delights the Master no end.
21 Parents, don't come down too hard on your children or you'll crush their spirits.    (The Message Bible)

Here are some ways in which fathers exasperate their children, make them bitter and crush their spirit:

Not allowing children the freedom to think for themselves at the appropriate age / or giving them this freedom to early in life.
Human beings can be extreamists:
  => they can try to control the lives of their children too much;
  => or they can make hardly any input into their children's lives at all.
Some parents have the tendency to push their children too much.
This can become very public sometimes in the matter of sport, where the child is pushed to win at all costs.
But there are parents who push their children with similar intensity, into education, or social climbing, and even in religion.

  => There are also parents who begin to back out of their children's lives before the child is ready for this, and the child becomes lost and has no support at home and is guided mainly by television values into an unfortunate lifestyle.
There are some extreme cases
  => where the child is never allowed to leave home and pursue their own path in life;
  => or other instances where the child has the minimum of parenting and is on their own from infancy.
These can have the most distressing outcomes of all.

Forcing children to accept the ideas and opinions of their parents. These children are not allowed to ask legitimate questions about faith and values.
As teenagers, they need discussion with parents, interaction with parents, in order to sort out for themselves what they believe. Since teen years can be very confusing, parents need to spend much time praying in private for God's guidance upon the lives of their children.

Living a “do as I say but not as I do” lifestyle. We have all seen role models who "talk" high moral values, and expect their family to live out those values, while they themselves are living a lifestyle which is at a much lower moral level from what their expect of their family. When these parents are exposed, the results can be terribly destructive in the life of their children.

Father in heaven,
if as a parent I have I have exasperated my children, made them bitter or crushed their spirit
through not permitting my children to think for themselves and ask appropriate questions freely;
or if I have sought to force my children to think just like I do;
or if I have led a hypocritical lifestyle of "do as I say but not as I do";
or if I have withdrawn from the lives of my children too early and left them lost,
please wash me in the Blood of the Lord Jesus Christ and forgive me.
Teach me how to begin to make things right with my children.
If as a child I have been dominated, intimidated or manipulated by my parents;
or if I was neglected and given no guidance by my parents;
or if I have never been allowed to be my own person,
or if I have had no loving parenting from anyone;
I ask that You, my heavenly Father, begin to heal my heart and soul today.
Work in me until I am completely healed and fully trusting in You.
Thank You that You are the mighty God who alone has the ability to heal hearts
and turn lives out of destruction and into Your way of hope and purpose.
Blessed be the Lord Jesus Christ,
whose death on the cross and coming alive again, makes this healing possible.
I place my trust in You, Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.

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